“God made humans upright, but we have sought after other devices” Eccle 7:29. There exist a social contract that is universally honoured by almost all ethnicity on earth: marriage that is. In recent times the dynamics has morphed a lot. Once in history a woman’s chastity was priced above all else and the reason for this is quite simple, women are essential for populating society and equally men genetically are predisposed to resent taking care of another man’s offspring. The negotiation goes, a man marries a woman while she was still youthful and also as a virgin, this serves to ensure that whatever baby she would carry will be for the man who has married her, and in turn the man will take care of the lady long after her youth is spent. This whole process was supervised by the parents of the both parties, and so important was chastity that some women were ostracized for not being virgins at the moment of marriage. Likewise adultery was frowned upon and was punishable by death.
Humans are primates and like many other mammals, the males are territorial and tend to exhibit harem tendencies. Male mammals tend to kill other males that mate with their partners and even more mundane is what lions do to lionesses to get them back to ovulate, the new alpha male of the pride murders all the cubs. It is really simple to a woman it really does not matter, all her kids whether by one man or different men are hers but the man has no way to confirm his fatherhood. Not until the advent of DNA testing, men have never been able to test their offspring’s paternity, and in our time it is really a relieve, considering the age we are in the age of women’s sexual liberation.
Times has changed and the one who fails to evolve surely will find his/herself in tears. There are truths that are presently being ignored but nonetheless people are paying the consequences of the ignorance thereof. Of all Walt Disney animations, there is only one that has portrayed relationship for what it really is, “Frozen”; the lot of the rest are bollocks and these animation keep condition young minds to believe a fantasy. High school love is a joke, personally I never dabbled in that, in my opinion teens claim love as a means to absolve themselves of the guilt of sex. Unlike other drugs, sex is not regulated, and the underdeveloped brains of teens get a massive hit of the euphoria and basically become dependent on love/sex, so they seek out relationships for a fix. Some along the way will learn to control the urge, while most will wind up never learning to discipline themselves, and as adults will lack self control, this is why you see some men with multiple baby-moms ( I call them serial baby-moms makers) and some women become single moms with multiple baby-daddies. You can’t crave what you have never tasted, ones the lid is off it will never be as new, my generation really can’t pretend to a sense of decency we do not practice.
Like all other animals we are ruled by our instincts, however humans unlike most animals have found a way to privatise this, we express most of our basal instincts indoors sex, pooping, sleeping and so on. The only thing other animals secretly do across the board is birthing. Reproduction anchors sex and it drives males crazy, and for the males juveniles the competition is rigged, always in the favour of the older established males, as juves they resent older men talking to ladies their age , all the while forgetting they are juveniles who have nothing to offer the young woman but their voracious sexual appetites. Likewise older ladies when they start to feel their biological clock ticking expect males their age to drool over them, they have also forgotten that what is natural is for males to seek youthful mates. Nature takes no prisoner, she is the executioner. Every young man and woman should realise that there are somethings that our civilisation can’t change and one of those things is biology, established males get the young girls, and for the yet to be married professional women, your degree does not get a man a hard on your youth does spend it wisely.
As juvenile males are at their sexual peak, and women reach theirs in their forties when they are not required by nature to birth anymore. Men as a result of their high libido seek to pair up more when they are younger, the bust of testosterone compels them. A man is readily prone to love and marry when he is younger and full of testosterone, marriage is a risky endeavor and it is a fact that men do stupid things when they are younger. All that changes as men age and pass the 30 mark, now they are more calculating and are less prone to propose to just any woman that empties their loins, they have developed tolerance to the love spell.
The game set up by nature is all about reproduction and the driver is a youthful woman. A woman’s youth is nature most priced possession, even God required young Mary to bear his only begotten son. Humans have only added the elements of politics and legalities to the art of pairing and called it marriage. The sole purpose is reproduction and nurturing. Women are more sexual in their late 30s and 40s and men are usually around that age losing virility, giving rise to the cougar revolution, some cougars who can’t get their male age mates to date them now have younger guys marrying them (anything to drain his loins), that testosterone induced decision making but soo enough Ashton will leave Moore. It is a bad card nature has dealt us and some seek philosphy to cope, while some use religious moral to cope, all are just trying to manage what seems unfair, Life’s rat race. No matter what stand anyone takes, it is always good to note no one can cheat or beat biology at this game. Therefore as a woman who aspires to have kids, marry early and a man who seeks a youthful woman develop yourself (make money and a name for yourself), nature always requires a sacrifice, how much does it really mean to you.
References
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