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There are so many narratives/legends that are alright to believe as a kid, one of many is that of Santa claus. It is rather naive to not consider why society reinforces such but never lectures on when to stop believing them. Yet as an adult you are expected to induce the falsity. Same applies to romantic love, so much is talked about it, except the fact it comes and goes,  and more importantly to learn when to let go of it.

Can a man and a woman be just friends? Ask a single person and they will most likely say “yes”, once married/in a relationship, the answer turns into a resounding “Hell No”. White lies are akin to speaking in codes, words that are only used in negotiating. Only the naive, simpleton take them serious. Disney cartoons sells every kid a dream of together after, even I remember day dreaming about having a wife and living forever after. Then religious community reinforces it in a deadly way, promising the best spouse if you remain chaste. The biggest joke, knowing that within the same church all choir members are constantly fornicating. Ever heard of the song “My love don’t cost a thing”  off-course just do not be broke if you must approach a lady. Only parents love unconditionally, every other person are there for their needs.

Romantic love is the most alluring of all legends created to indoctrinate kids, “There is only one person for everyone”, and somehow are we to expect those who lost their spouses to never re-marry or better yet the vow “till death do us part ” but same time we are supposed to just ignore divorce rates. The truth is everyone is going for the individual most desirable desirable traits. Consequently, this individual gets to have a monopoly on dating.

Relationships starts where our need converge and ends where our needs diverge. In other words it is a transactional and both parties have to do their parts adequately and promptly. Once and for all settling the notion of unconditional love. Enough of the misleading legends/whitelies. Humanity is born for cooperation, and no place is this more true than when it comes to choosing a spouse. At the biological level the qualification are straight to the point. For the male, you provide and protect, likewise the lady, you cater and nurture. The process of getting a spouse is rather uncomplicated.

Though still guided by our instincts, there are social construct that interfere with the biology of pairing for us humans. Initially, our ancestors demanded marriage for political reasons and to form alliances, it was strictly opportunistic. In Today’s post feminist era we pretend it is for love, but  nothing can be further from the truth. In yesteryears, marriages were arranged for an economic purpose , however today it mainly isn’t arranged by parents but yet remains opportunistic. Therein lies the big problem.

Men and women  have different perception on love, yet most  never consider this, before committing to a relationship. Conversely, you have to date before commitment, as earlier sated, the process is no longer under the guidance of parents. the individual parties are their own representative now. To quote christ, ” Can two be together unless they agree”; the social contract that guided marriages was drafted by our ancestors during humanity’s primitive years.

It goes fathers with daughters looked for the most noble, qualified family to marry their daughters off to, and fathers with sons ensured their sons secured a virtuous woman to sire childrens by: offspring to will his property when the sun sets on him. There is however a caveat to the lady’s qualification, her hymen had to be intact, lack of DNA paternity testing somewhat demands that. The woman’s father is the arbiter of hypergamy, looking out for the welfare of his daughter long after he is no more. It is the least a father can  do for his little girl. Divorce was almost impossible, the family’s name had to be protected, property also and if anything at all males took concubines and the wife covertly steps out the marriage. In as much as she gives the man children, the husband must look after her in old age.

Today, the presence of a hymen or lack therefore is no determining factor for marriage qualification, but still the same instinct guides us, the man wants to sire offspring and the woman needs a man to protect and  provide for her, especially when she no longer commands any sex appeal. Our ancestral nuptial social contract is at this time void and non applicable, It is rather up to the “love birds” to come to an agreeable mutual compromise regarding the intended relationship.

Men and women mature at different rates, men come up later in life, while girls go through puberty they are already catching the attention of males way older, if not for the legal age of consent, men don’t mind dating women as early as 14.  Once sexual maturity is reached, both males and females seek sexual validation, their raging hormones hails them. Girls are designed naturally to have their pickings as early as possible, unlike males who have to work to get the validation. Men are  success object and women are sex objects, this is what guides the commerce of relationship.

Before the urge to start a family, everyone must find out how sexually qualified they are, this serve to provide a reference for an individual’s sexual market value. Everybody wants the best looking member of the opposite sex, the style of approach determines the level of confidence. Consequently,  men who are not established yet/no status tend to utilise their morals as their  sex appeal ( which by the way is absurd). Women who complain incessantly of never getting their crushes to approach them usually are the least attractive.  This persist usually through High school and college for those who attend. From this moment on, there is no such thing as “just friends” every member of the opposite sex is a potential sex partner, it is just a matter of if the other acknowledges it, otherwise friend-zone becomes the next option.

For a woman the calibre of men who find her sexually attractive determines what kind of men she will be married to, for her this is more than just a luxury , it is a matter of survival. Should she mess up and get pregnant for a nonentity, she will  have to work harder in life, taking odd jobs to feed her kids. If she is fortunate to find a man who is successful, she won’t have to worry about how her and her kids will survive. For the juvenile male, he must wait to attain success before he can lay claim to any woman, for a man being handsome is 20% what is required to be considered a good mate. During juvenile years, men do what juves of other mammalian species do, they have sex on the sides with girlfriends and wives of alpha males.

The dating game is colder than a corpse, all expectations and ideals ought to be suspended throughout the dating period. Scarcity is the everyone’s worst enemy, even so more true for the young males whose sexual market place is yet to be solidified. The lack of confidence and eagerness to commit always betrays them. For women by the time they graduate college, they usually know what their sexual market value is and equally ought to be reminded that it only goes down from there: As they age and worse when they slip and become single moms.

Dating is simply an interview, especially if it was preceded by a cold approach from a man. As a man you must learn to do the approaching and get used to being rejected and/ getting a contact information. Getting a contact information is usually the first step to getting an invitation to compete for the price to the lady’s panties especially: if she is at the time considering a monogamous relationship (not necessarily marriage, that usually comes when the woman nears the expiration of her fertility prime). Getting the date only shows you have the looks, now the next is to show case how much success you have and how good you are is selling a fantasy. Women love a good salesman, to be one you must be god at word manipulation (liar), words to make her momentarily escape the horrors of  her reality.

The date comes to an end, you  reach out afterwards,  perhaps she becomes a correspondent. Always keep in mind this means survival to her, she must rack up a number of  best potential suitors for when she is finally ready to settle down. If she does not reply on time, she is allocating time also to other suitors. Calm down and go about your business, if she is tired of the present man in her life, she will reach out to you, otherwise know at the moment you could not outmatch her present/potential options. They were men before you , hate to say it but you will have to wait your turn unless you willing to date as young as 18, you just have to determine if she is worth the wait, and even that depends on the quality of women you have been with in the past. As you are always compelled to compare with your Exs.

To get a woman, you have to outclass whoever she is presently with or wait for him to dump her, it is that simple. If she got dumped and you become the rebound to show off, don’t be the idiot to commit. You are at the time just a rebound, she might as well just be a sweater, a seasonal clothing. Make no mistake, mate pairing has nothing to do with morals and religious leaning, if ever anyone comes at you in the name of a pastor of their religious affiliation, I’ll advice to you stoically opt out. Don’t be sold on that,  the game is the game and naivety never pays, never entertain mediocrity not even in the name of Jesus. She wants your commitment she will have to earn just like every other guy before you. Her eagerness and desperation does not and should not constitute an express compliance from you.

Dating is a negotiation process, the male need to always remember the female is the gate keeper of sex, and until she has sexual intercourse with you, you are not close to being considered for the position of a boyfriend. As a result you must conduct yourself not as boyfriend to her. Do as little as possible until then, only girlfriends should get the benefit befitting a girlfriend. If you do otherwise, you have at the moment come to an agreement with her, “silence is consent”. Now she gets the treatment of a girlfriend without sex and so keeps you on ice while considering other applications (guys). If you’d waited after sex to grant her the pass, she will at least have had a skin in the relationship making it a little difficult to just pull out.

Commerce of relationship is this, a woman is not vested in a relationship before sex and likewise a  man is not vested in a relationship before giving his time. As a matter of precaution give accordingly, match her. Personally I despise church for mostly promoting the ideology a man she commit to a woman while she gives nothing back. It is a sin against humanity, that makes church men only get women who have lavished their best on all men but her husband to be. As far as dating goes, the church has no jurisdiction, never let them direct the flow of your dating life. If they truly care for normalizing premarital sex, they had better make sure upon marriage their daughters hymen are unbroken. Otherwise nature will have it course and God will not save you from the pain of  realizing how many of your choir members has slapped genitals with your wife to be.

Everyone is trying to get the best service for he least price, the essence of negotiation is to come to an amicable compromise. Silence is consent, while dating express your conditions do not hold back, say it with tact but be adamant about it. If your conditions are not meant dissolve the arrangement.  The attention you give her is the sign of acknowledgement that you find her attractive, from then on leave her be and only yield your time to her after consummation. In as much as she makes it known if she gives up the vag quick you will think her a slut, don’t give up your time quickly lest she think of you as a fool.

Chastity is no longer a virtue sought after for marriage, with that said if you as a woman desire the classy successful man, my advice to you is find what that man likes and get good at it and more importantly use your beauty to your  advantage. Get that man in your twenties, don’t wait after. Dating a lady in her 20s is a lot cuter than one in her 30s, Preferably you are not a single mom at the time.

For those who marry the first man or woman to say “I love you” to them, you sold yourselves short and most likely the day that individual find out they can do better than you, you will discarded for that better person. This goes for guys who usually think dating a fat girl automatically means she will treasure  them, if she has an inkling she was the best you were willing to work for, she will step out on you he day she loses all that fatty mass. Same thing goes for women who choose to date bums, once he gets his life together he is out the door. No one wants a spouse that others do not desire. Like a job you must have all your qualification upon the interview. A potential spouse must be qualified at the moment of dating/courtship, no such thing as waiting on. Time waits for none so let no one who knows they are unqualified waste your time. You get to play when you can afford the ticket, it is exclusive.

There is a lot you can gather from the men of a community in order to grasp a better judgment of the nature of their prosperity/poverty. Take for instance the black majority; continent aside, mostly use money as a means to procure consumer goods. It is not unusual that the first time a black man gets a big break, he squanders a lot of it on luxury items than invest it. That which defines a typical black individual is what other blacks see on/with him.

I have always been curious of older white friends that I surround myself with, many of these men are millionaires and you would not suspect they have so much. It is safe to say the only rich white people that show off their wealth are white celebrities. For instance there is one I met at the swimming pool back in 2018, upon finding he was a day stocks trader I got closer to him, one time he lost $100000 stocks and he was so stoic about it. If I’d lost $10000 worth of stocks in a market crash, I would not be in a friendly mood. This man drives a old chevy van he’d bought brand new a decade earlier and when asked why he does not drive a merc, he scoffs. “What’s the point of a depreciating asset?”

Finally it hits me, self preservation via wealth is a concept that escapes blacks across the world. The black man is far natural than his white counterparts; in Africa there are fruits bearing trees (edible) everywhere and all arounds the different seasons. Dropping a seed on the wayside carelessly, the seedling grows into a tree bearing fruits, no natural disaster, bountiful rivers channels and streams. Nature so much blessed black africa that there is no need to stash or save for the future.

It is said that “Necessity is the mother of invention”, there was no need to task the brain beyond what is required in Africa, consequently africans may have not have understood the concept of deferring immediate gratification. The white men on the other hand, especially Northern Europeans had to deal with the winter finding food to eat, farming was difficult and so had to invent ways around the icy soil or raiding. Consequently, saving and investing was a matter of survival.

Fast forward to the present day, Black Africa sucks at administration, logistics and government as whole, the concept eludes them. Democracy is more suited for the Caucasian not so much the Negro. Not to judge but as much as most domestic terrorist are Caucasian and greedy(colonisers), African men even as elders only care about getting younger women, smoking and joking and squandering, likely the aboriginal thing to do. When Che Guevara said ” The Negro is indolent and lazy and spends his money on frivolities, whereas the European is forward looking, organized and intelligent” he might have sounded a little hostile but there is a lot of truth to that saying.

The worst thing to ever happen to Africa was both the Trans-Saharan and Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade. The consequence of these events after centuries are yet to be completely played out. No where else is the effect more prevalent than in the United States. Even after the emancipation, civil rights were not afforded African Americans, the KKK could violate AA without consequences, though Europeans immigrants (Ellis Is land) that came after inherently got those rights and were treated better. There is a lot of PTSD affecting AA today, the root of all the problems.

Black women have endured a lot for a long time. Black men could not have possibly defended them and their children from raiders displacing them from africa, abroad. On a different soil, they are continuously being raped by the masters and their children being maltreated and still black men could not do anything. Women are better survivals than men are, while men might regard some female qualities as cowardice, To a woman it is self preservation that is paramount not showing stupid bravery.

Imagine seeing your masters wife being treated very special, you are the servant at her beck and call, while your husband can’t provide the same luxuries, from the gifts of pearls, diamonds and dresses you can only watch in envy as another woman is being showered in opulence/privileges. Perhaps the funnier will be when master’s wife has you come over to apply make ups and also brush her hair while you resent your nappy hair.

Ever wondered why black women always want to be called queens? The Little white girl knows she is daddy’s little princess, born to become a queen. To be a queen you have to be born to a king or be married to him, either way there is no queen without a king, and there is the missing link. Today black women are so ambitious, extremely competitive. They are graduating college more than black men are, becoming professionals. Could it be they are overcompensating? All the years black men have failed to protect and provide due racial profiling.

It is as though what they feel black men have never been able to give them they will work for and gift themselves. Kudos to their tenacity, harriet tubman kind of women. However , they need to be looked out for now more than ever, the joy of knowing a man cares and is capable of taking care of you, reviving the missing femininity, ” I don’t need no man” mentality has to be done with, you are a queen just as much as any woman. Black women are to be reminded of this with more than just words, also with action

It takes mental courage to break mental shackles, and cease from making excuses to absolve oneself from accountability. In the words of Frederick Douglas “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men”. There is a lot of therapy needed within the black community and healing is a slow process but can be done with commitment and dedication

Recession according to the National Bureau of economic Research (NBER) is “the period of failling economic activity spread across the market, lasting more than a few months”.It is officially defined as the decline in output (real GDP) for two consecutive quarters. In other words recession spells the period when there is less spending, followed by a declining employment rate and less pay. People generally spend mainly out of necessity and other times as a luxury:when they have surplus disposable income. In the presence of recession luxury spending is unavailable.

In any given economy a balanced deflation and inflation rate is required for a healthy economy. The two listed variables also may be used to stimulate or stir a nation(s)’economy towards a desired outcome.

Money like all commodities has a supply chain. The mechanism of this supply is called fractional reserve banking, all central banks which includes the federal reserve: also Federal reserve is no more federal than FEDex is. During a prevalent recession it is not uncommon for the feds to opt for a bail out, sounds good on the surface but every stimulus package, comes with heavy taxes and increased inflation (Quantitative Easing). More money is printed to fill the bail out at a cost that the government pays the Federal Reserve(currency makers), the payment comes in the form of taxes on the citizens.

Deflation occurs a s result of negative inflation rate (i.e falling prices). Deflation is the enemy of a functioning central bank. Demand drives the productions supply which consequently increases profit margin. The lack of demand for a surplus of goods produced drives the economy to the ground. The presence of inflation only devalues a currency, but does not necessarily reduces the employment rate, however deflation always drives the employment down as goods are discounted to save the profit margin, companies lay off workers.

Deflation is essential the precursor to recessions and depressions. Rise in unemployment and stock market prices and depreciation of assets(stocks included). As earlier mentioned that the Federal Reserve monetary system works on creating debt via credit. Deflation makes it virtually impossible to make profit when money is loaned out since the assets are constantly losing value. Recession can be initiated to buy back the major shares of a company from individual stockholders and also acquire property that previously won’t been listed for sale.

Fractional reserve banking is predicated upon inflation, The economy works on credit and loans. Businessmen have learned to use loans and credit lines to create wealth while the majority get in debt by purchasing consumer goods on credit. The typical bank is set up to sell credit and loans, this is their products. Inflation favors this business, high prices drives the demand for credit, interest rate equals profit for banks. This is why during a recession stimulus package are set up and interest rates are lowered to encourage masses to spend and get loans/credits.

Do not feed the machine, if ever you get loans ensure it is used to create wealth and not for consumer goods that are depreciating assets.

Sources

https://www.economicshelp.org/blog/1460/recession/difference-between-recession-and-deflation/

https://www.investopedia.com/ask/answers/111414/what-difference-between-inflation-and-deflation.asp

https://www.forbes.com/sites/mikepatton/2013/07/01/the-truth-behind-the-feds-monetary-expansion/#544e302e7236

My beloved brother, I’m yet to have kids but I do have plans for my unborn, especially for my daughter, personally I know how easy it is to raise a boy. My anxiety stems from the premise of raising a daughter. It is no secret there are more ladies in our family and a lifetime of observation has made me realize the inherent nature of women. From dealing with women who are relatives, to those whom I fancy; I have noticed parallels and anomalies I will like to disclose.

Let us first consider the myth of male superiority, from the evolutionary point of view, the life of the female of any specie means more than the collective life of all males within her community. It takes a whole colony to protect the Termite Queen, Queen Bee and in the case of mammals, males kill themselves for access to the female. Nature in essence does everything to protect the female while bequeathing to the male life hurdles. For all the advantage a woman has by virtue of being a woman, she lacks one thing, as she advances in age, less men are willing to tolerate her.

This is underlying reason why a woman needs to have a ideal man as her husband before time disrobes her of her youthful charm. A woman’s beauty might get her a ring but only the sentimental value of raising a child with her will make a man tarry with her when she is gray and weak. Lana Del Rey said it best “Will you still love me when I’m no longer beautiful”. All that put into consideration what a every woman requires is not really a children but a reliable man (Husband). You as a father might be the man that loves your daughter the most, but no father will be there for their daughter when she is old and frail. It is safe to say that every father ought to teach their daughters how to attract a man not just at the evolutionary value of sexual reproduction but also accounting for long term sustainability.

Love really is not the goal of marriage it is merely a by-product, only a fool would think otherwise, it is mainly about survival. Ironically, in recent times women have been granted the choice to decide their husbands and it is no secret they are failing at it. Select few complain that “Men ain’t shit” despite only dating men they meet at night clubs, then you have the case of single mothers who who have their kids out of wedlock: some mistakes you don’t fully recover from, and the other case are of women whose marriages were incidental. The first group of women surely need someone to talk to them, someone who will not spare their feelings, insanity is dating a thug and expecting him to treat you like a queen, it takes a king to make a queen (First Lady), marrying a queen never makes you a king (First Mr.).

To the single women making kids out of wedlock, in my life time I have learned that men who have multiple wives usually favor the children of the woman they like more, men are polygamous by nature, despite societal pressure, our biology may not be undermined, it cost him nothing to keep making kids with as many women who are willing to lie with him; giving him a baby does not equal commitment on his part. For those women who assume a wedding ring /ceremony/vow, can renew a man’s motives, that to me is highly naive. Even God always check the motive of heart seeking him nowadays, he can’t afford another Lucifer.

Virtually all fathers who complain about their wives excessive behaviors, see the same trend in their daughter and choose not address, but at the same time demand the best from the men who will date their daughters. I know she is your princess, but you have to prepare her to play the role of a queen eventually. It takes a certain level of maturity, the one that requires teaching her understand deferred gratification, as life does not always follow our timetables. Most women are scared of rejection or being said “No” to, guys don’t have that problem apparently, years of serial rejection inures us to that. I remember always using my kid sister as a front to convey my request to my father, I’ve learned he rarely denies her requests. Teach your fucking daughters how to be a functioning adult, a husband won’t and should not be perceived as a daddy, otherwise appoint a sugar daddy for your daughter to help maintain her brat tendencies.

“Daddy issues” is a serious case, the absence of the sense of belonging and protection sets a dark cloud over a girl. Every daughter learns the process of a healthy relationship from the men of her immediate family, most especially from her father. Almost all women who resent men have daddy issues, the symptom of fear of abandonment. These ladies tend to express their disgust for men by becoming femme fatale.  I would advise a man should never get in a romantic relationship with these type, they usually are unhealthy and sick people usually get others sick. On a side note, repeatedly aborting a fetuses is another scary thing, I had a random woman break down in my arms at a park because she missed the kid she aborted seven years ago. That right there made me realise a lady who’s had an abortion before might not be the best  life partner, best she marries the man whose baby she aborted.

The only man that will most respect a girl’s femininity ought to be her father and if the father fails at this, the lady will grow to lose all respect for her femininity, to her, her body will become a means to initially get the attention she seeks from men and eventually to extort men of their resources. Becoming a stripper, porn star, and escort are options that will never be ruled out, as she winds up getting both male validation and money, killing two birds with one stone. The worst part is the exaggerated sense of entitlement . After being a sex worker the expectation is to have a good guy to come save them, often times than not they get this ideal man, but lack the sense of accountability to respect the man and ultimately forfeiting he relationship. This is quintessential toxic relationship, we all know women like this.

I am not in any way bashing sex workers, on the contrary I am all for the legalization of prostitution, my objection is having young girls victimized by the circumstances of their childhood being forced into that life as though having no other options. Women complain about patriarchy but forget that patriarchy created chivalry whilst bolstering hypergamy: a code that was set up by fathers with daughters to ensure their daughters get to be the bride of the champions ensuring she will be well looked out for. As a woman you don’t have to be the winner so long as you marry the winner, that is the beauty of womanhood. No sensible father wants his daughter ending up a whore. Nothing is wrong with whoredom except when the whore envisions a family life then whoredom poses a great threat. The saying “Do not make a Ho into a housewife” is not just an urban legend, men at the biological level innately know a whore can’t be loyal to one man and that is terrifying. As a result “working ladies” usually end up making kid with nonentities.

It goes without saying every man knows what an ideal wife is, and every father wants his daughter to be married to a well to do man later on. The problem is most fathers drop the ball on preparing their daughters on what a responsible man wants in a wife aside from his genitals. Raising a daughter is not exactly the easiest task, women may be more physically durable than men, however psychologically women are more fragile than men are. As a man who has a daughter it is your duty to make sure you are tender and firm to your daughter, be her first love and show her how to give and receive love in a healthy way, from the way you love her mother. The love you you fail to give your daughter, will be given to her by strangers at the cost of her dignity.

A daughter will seek her father’s approval, to feel treasured. The absence of a dad’s love will result in fear of abandonment thus destroying her ability ability to form healthy relationships. Often times than not, divorce/separation erodes the father/daughter bond and incidentally stripping the little girl’s support system away. A mother can’t give her daughter what her father could as far as male and female interaction goes. As a teenager I know of a girl who told me she had sex with a guy I did not like to spite me for not ever acknowledging her. At the time I was a virgin and the least of all activities on mind was sex. If she had a father or brother to talk to, perhaps they could have shed light on the nature of male and female attraction. One can only imagine by what age the same girl would categorize all men as “ain’t shit men” despite only dating men who barely respect her.

Usually step dads can’t be trusted with their step-daughters, and moms sometimes are so busy trying to spite daddy they forget to vet the creep they have to warm their beds. Divorce can be prevented, otherwise a man must try to ask his daughter questions about the step dad. If you as father can’t protect her always, at least teach her early to raise a creep alarm in the case of foul plays. Girls that get violated as kids usually do not tell anyone about it, and they hold that against men and their father who could not protect them from the predators, at times the same plays out with boys, most of my male gay friends have told me as a kid they were sexually harassed by an older gay guy..

Most women eventually want kids to include lesbians, and some women contrary to the feminist narrative want a man to provide for them,while nursing. The problem is most women who grew up without a father figure are unfit for a healthy relationship, As a result I would advice my son to avoid a lady who is from a single parent home, these women usually trade sex for attention and not for love, and mostly see men as sex objects (sperminators) or walking ATMS.

Essentially as a father you want your daughter to be the ideal woman , all you wish your wife should be. No man deserves to have his precious time wasted trying to put up with a toxic woman as proof of his love for her, like most of them toxic girls like to say “if you can’t handle me at my worst , you don’t deserve me at my best”. Teach her accountability and the benefit of patience and hardwork, setting goals instead of expectations. Nothing in life worth having comes immediately, there is always a period between sowing and harvesting.

References

Symptoms

https://www.merckmanuals.com/home/mental-health-disorders/personality-disorders/borderline-personality-disorder-bpd

Having the child sometimes doesn’t necessarily mean saving the child.

“God made humans upright, but we have sought after other devices” Eccle 7:29. There exist a social contract that is universally honoured by almost all ethnicity on earth: marriage that is. In recent times the dynamics has morphed a lot. Once in history a woman’s chastity was priced above all else and the reason for this is quite simple, women are essential for populating society and equally men genetically are predisposed to resent taking care of another man’s offspring. The negotiation goes, a man marries a woman while she was still youthful and also as a virgin, this serves to ensure that whatever baby she would carry will be for the man who has married her, and in turn the man will take care of the lady long after her youth is spent. This whole process was supervised by the parents of the both parties, and so important was chastity that some women were ostracized for not being virgins at the moment of marriage. Likewise adultery was frowned upon and was punishable by death.

Humans are primates and like many other mammals, the males are territorial and tend to exhibit harem tendencies. Male mammals tend to kill other males that mate with their partners and even more mundane is what lions do to lionesses to get them back to ovulate, the new alpha male of the pride murders all the cubs. It is really simple to a woman it really does not matter, all her kids whether by one man or different men are hers but the man has no way to confirm his fatherhood. Not until the advent of DNA testing, men have never been able to test their offspring’s paternity, and in our time it is really a relieve, considering the age we are in the age of women’s sexual liberation.

Times has changed and the one who fails to evolve surely will find his/herself in tears. There are truths that are presently being ignored but nonetheless people are paying the consequences of the ignorance thereof. Of all Walt Disney animations, there is only one that has portrayed relationship for what it really is, “Frozen”; the lot of the rest are bollocks and these animation keep condition young minds to believe a fantasy. High school love is a joke, personally I never dabbled in that, in my opinion teens claim love as a means to absolve themselves of the guilt of sex. Unlike other drugs, sex is not regulated, and the underdeveloped brains of teens get a massive hit of the euphoria and basically become dependent on love/sex, so they seek out relationships for a fix. Some along the way will learn to control the urge, while most will wind up never learning to discipline themselves, and as adults will lack self control, this is why you see some men with multiple baby-moms  ( I call them serial baby-moms makers) and some women become single moms with multiple baby-daddies. You can’t crave what you have never tasted, ones the lid is off it will never be as new, my generation really can’t pretend to a sense of decency we do not practice.

Like all other animals we are ruled by our instincts, however humans  unlike most animals have found a way to privatise this, we express most of our basal instincts indoors sex, pooping, sleeping and so on. The only thing other animals secretly do across the board is birthing. Reproduction anchors sex and it drives males crazy, and for the males juveniles the competition is rigged, always in the favour of the older established males, as juves they resent older men talking to ladies their age , all the while forgetting they are juveniles who have nothing to offer the young woman but their voracious sexual appetites. Likewise older ladies when they start to feel their biological clock ticking expect males their age to drool over them, they have also forgotten that what is natural is for males to seek youthful mates. Nature takes no prisoner, she is the executioner. Every young man and woman should realise that there are somethings that our civilisation can’t change and one of those things is biology, established males get the young girls, and for the yet to be married professional women, your degree does not get a man a hard on your youth does spend it wisely.

As juvenile males are at their sexual peak, and women reach theirs in their forties when they are not required by nature to birth anymore. Men as a result of their high libido seek to pair up more when they are younger, the bust of testosterone compels them.  A man is readily prone to love and marry when he is younger and full of testosterone, marriage is a risky endeavor and it is a fact that men do stupid things when they are younger. All that changes as men age and pass the 30 mark, now they are more calculating and are less prone to propose to just any woman that empties their loins, they have developed tolerance to the love spell. 

The game set up by nature is all about reproduction and the driver  is a youthful woman. A woman’s youth is nature most priced possession, even God required young Mary to bear his only begotten son. Humans have only added the elements of politics and legalities to the art of pairing and called it marriage. The sole purpose is reproduction and nurturing. Women are more sexual in their late 30s and 40s and men are usually around that age losing virility, giving rise to the cougar revolution, some cougars who can’t get their male age mates to date them now have younger guys marrying them (anything to drain his loins), that testosterone induced decision making but soo enough Ashton will leave Moore. It is a bad card nature has dealt us and some seek philosphy to cope, while some use religious moral to cope, all are just trying to manage what seems unfair, Life’s rat race. No matter what stand anyone takes, it is always good to note no one can cheat or beat biology at this game. Therefore as a woman who aspires to have kids, marry early and a man who seeks a youthful woman develop yourself (make money and a name for yourself), nature always requires a sacrifice, how much does it really mean to you.

References

https://www.couriermail.com.au/news/women-in-their-30s-and-early-40s-have-higher-sex-drives/news-story/0e7891030bb7e526945d9899833d754f?sv=e5bd342abfcd98464d6c939aae58c0e2

Ecclesiates

https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?ContentTypeID=1&ContentID=3051

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh friend it’s time we deconstructed all society and church instructed

That  which I am telling you ought not be a reason for rebelling

Nor see being with a women as a ill omen

Be cautious, some of them can leave you nauseous

A lady is no angel be aware of the fable

Promiscuity is a thing of antiquity is essential for tranquility.

 

All am about to share with you is not for you to resent women, it is however to help you manage the frustration of being the nice guy who ends up coming last. The same things were told to me growing up as a child in church. However outside the church walls I quickly realised somethings were not practical, it was all but a role play. One such thing is virginity, I was told countless times to keep myself for my wife and it was mostly repeated by aunt. As a result I day dreamed of meeting my wife, I even dreamt of riding my motorbike with my wife pillion riding.

The dream was sold to me and I ran with it but as a teenager I knew the dream was flawed. Women are human just as us males, they are no angels and it is unfair to expect them not to make mistakes. The way that fantasy was sold  is as though women have no agency, always in a perpetual infantile state. Women are not kids but adult females and as such ought to be respected and held accountable. The first thing to realise is that you can’t own a woman, she is not your property especially in this age, so don’t get wrapped up in that ideology.

I know they made it sound as though choosing to wait till marriage to have sex qualifies you for a woman, well I am glad to disappoint you with the truth to set you free from that lie. Your abstinence only qualifies  you as a sexually disciplined person, unlike most who were sexually active as teenagers, you will notice you are more able to repress the thirst and also you won’t be a baby father or catch any stupid STIs. Essentially you will be more sexually responsible. As far as getting first round pick on a lady you like, boy the competition is stiff and you will have to compete for her attention just as every other men, too bad for you, you have less tools to work it as far as approaching a woman.

There is no such as match made in heaven (Matt22:30), another lie to debunk, matches are made here on earth and contrary to all that holy matrimony crap preached in church, after you marry her,you  will still have to compete with every man she’s ever loved before marrying you. let this serve as a reminder, ” I love the man I married but I did not marry the man I loved”. Anyone who’s had sex with her before given the time and opportunity can hump her again. That is just the bitter truth, woman give sex based on love and marry based on qualifications, you are just the guy who had to put a ring on it to receive her love, others did not have to buy a ring. This why you take her away from her home church to your church and away from the state where she went to school. It is ncloseot a sign of insecurity on your part but rather you reducing the chances of her being in  proximity as the men whom she can easily hump again.

A lady friend once told me that she will die before she admits to her man she cheated on him, and I do not stand in judgment against her, she is a lady and she knows how men react to that (Proverbs 6:34-35). Sex is not sacred, the last time that crap was sacred, Eve was flirting with the serpent and possibly humping the serpent too while her husband was working out in the fields. Sex is a bodily function not different from sleeping, animals do it and yet we love to pretend when we humans do it, it is sacred. The only thing special about sex is your wife giving birth to your own children.

That same girl you are crushing on, 5000 other guys are crushing on her, the liberating truth is when you find out some ladies love you so much but somehow you can’t get yourself to love them back, so never get mad at a woman who does not reciprocate your advances, there are some women who like you the same and you ignore them, nonetheless a lady only gets one chance, if for any reason she comes back as a result of being left, she does not get to be your first choice and let her know it, it is called accountability. Attraction is just a biological, it has little to do with heaven’s match making. Realise this, someone was having sex with her before you married her and she is with you only because that bugger would not put a ring on it. As a guy who has believed in waiting till marriage I know you have the false sense of righteousness, like you are better than those who started having sex early, no you are not. More than likely your wife was dumped by one of those guys.

Another thing to note is, to not fool yourself by thinking you are noble for being the guy who love her enough to put a ring on it, it is not that way. You are most likely putting a ring on it because you are lazy to talk to other women, never marry the first woman who professes to love you. All women after having their fun come to church to seek out men foolish enough to keep themselves. She has explored her sexuality and you have not , do you know I know  a number of female friends who still have sex with their former partners just because the church guy they have has no experience nor is he willing to learn in bed. The height of hypocrisy I witnessed in church was when they told a mate he could not have sex with a single mom he loves until he marries her. What an insult, how did she make the kid ? Premarital sex is just as important just as premarital spending. Ironically churches are not against the latter but frown at the former, if you don’t hump her, her baby daddy who is not ready to marry her will. A woman seeks your validation by your readiness to hump her, if she is not signalling she wants you sexually, she is only using you as a meal ticket cut it off, church or not.

Sex is transactional, you need to realise that every woman at one point has had sex for love, money and attention. The frequency of which one they done more says a lot about them. A woman who mostly give sex for love is capable of still bonding, the one who gives sex mostly for money is incapable of respecting your manhood, the one who gives sex mostly for attention, you should never commit to. Marriage is more than just you getting to have sex,  it is bigger than that. Waiting on marriage to have sex is a disservice to you, because you are getting into a contract as a beggar, you are blinded by urges. You should marry with objectivity, goals of a family, how you want your kids to be raised and the mom who will assist you with that, not to get to have sex. “I married my wife so I can finally blow my load on a woman’s tits”, it sounds stupid no woman in her right mind frame will respect you.

“Give unto Ceasar what is Caesar, to God what is God’s” on the marriage certificate the emblem of the state is overtly heading the document and the presiding priest/pastor always says by the power vested in me by the state of _____. That alone should tell you that God has little to do with the wedding ritual of our time. They make you say  “Till death do us part” but made it possible for both parties to get a divorce. I’m not saying God hates marriage, all I’m trying to say is God will intervene in a marriage only if he is invited in that marriage, marriage by itself is not governed by God or christian morals any longer.

Let’s assume you met a woman in church today and somehow you are attracted to her, don’t ever let her play mind tricks on you, in that she tries to use Jesus as an excuse. If you are going to marry her, date her, let her prove her worth just as much you have to prove your worth to her. The church usually acts as a support system for a woman, even if they know she is not the best option for you, they will do everything in their power to make sure you end up with her. Not by merits of her being virtuous as described by King Solomon in Proverbs 33 but as of her being a worker in church and serving her pastor. Those are not marriage qualities, you can’t expect a woman to marry you just because you  play the guitar in church and yet you are jobless. You have to spend time with her, just as those guy who did not marry her did in the past, hopefully she has made amends to prove herself worthy of a ring. In addition you must have sex with her, I don’t care what your pastor says, the only time you wait is if she is truly a virgin. You give honor only to those the honor is due.

All women out there having sex outside marriage are choir members in one church or the other, and being that sex does not count in our time anymore, close your ears to the cries of “I’m not letting you have sex until you marry me”, women say this to negotiate their credibility, they innately know men are hardwired to resent loose women: that is just a role play. In my opinion I would even like it that you don’t marry her until you knock her up. The reason is because I know of  lady who after 2 abortions gave her life to christ and after old things are past away married a church guy just to found out the abortion procedures complicated her ability to have kids, now the brother is trying to use faith to have kids with some woman who was careless with her body, While the man she did the abortion for is with his own kids by another woman.

A bald man who gave his life to christ yesterday still would be bald today, scra are old and things of the past but they remain. If she is not a virgin you have every right to test the conditions it was left in before commiting, don’t be fooled in the name of Jesus. Born again or not if Jesus  was to born today God will still find a virgin. This is not to judge anyone, it is simply a call to look out for your own interest, marriage is a one time transaction, she has already verified you and have pastors and deacons check your stats, but the question is who is doing any investigative work for you to confirm you are not being cheated. Jesus said ” many shall say to me Lord we did all this in your name and I will reply depart from me” just because they claim Jesus does not mean they are a disciple.

Jesus told a story of 10 virgins being turned down for being irresponsible. Marriage is all about merits, it is not based on how much you serve your church as most church girls reason nowadays. Just as you have your standards and requirements, you have to respect and live up to her standards and requirements, that’s called respect and accountability. If any lady expects from you the world but thinks all she has to do is lead praise and worship in church to be a marriageable, walk away bad deal.

 

 

 

 

Life begins as a consequence of two individuals’ actions. From the moment of conception a child’s reality is governed by the parent(s), almost as though the little human has no agency at all. When born, a child has to be indoctrinated, from learning immediate family’s customs to the societal customs. The family gives a child a name to be identified by, society the ethnic group to identify with and both identities have to be defended. Formal and informal education are the passport issued to an alien child to navigate the world. As the child grows, the child is introduced to: religion, politics, art, marriage and sex; ultimately fostering assimilation. However, as a young adult an individual will start to realise nothing is really what it seems on the surface and this is all one serious joke, a form of mockery on his/her intelligence.

Law makers depend on money (banks), politics and religion/culture to control the masses. Money is the most powerful of the three. Fractional reserve banking is the biggest insult to the common man’s work ethic. The bank loans you numbers on a screen at an interest rate for you to pay them back in in labor. From mortgages, school and car loans, it is all smokeless fire, a agenda fostered by the banks in order to loan out more money. Marriage is also their best yield, as the married man must buy the ever demanding wife the endless list of consumer product she requires, though not needed. To make matters worse, as soon as the bankers crash the economy they are bailed out via quantitative easing at the expense of the masses. It is funny gays were not granted marriage rights until the decline of marriage among straight couples, bankers trying to secure their loan credit lines: marriage. Even then straight couples who have kids out of wed-lock are being hung on the child support line, whatever it takes to keep the debt line up, it does not matter what sex is paying (males do most of the payment though). The state’s worst nightmare is a nation with a large proportion of single men, which is inevitable and most likely will result in the passing of a bachelor’s tax act.

Monotheism, Polytheism and Atheism are different categories of religion, each one of these ties in to the politics of the society. Ancient Romans incorporated their religious rituals to their politics, and the same can be noticed with other civilizations and societies. Polytheism proposes an answer for phenomena not readily understood, most cultures have gods in common, ranging from: god of war, thunder, harvest and so on. Mostly made to exert control on the masses, the Romans strangely had a god of boots: a god who kept their leather boots from rot.

Humans will also do unspeakable things to make their worship feel tangible, from making idols to human sacrifices to disfiguring their bodies and living in isolation. These all count as signs for the ordinary people to respect the priest and priestesses that serve as representatives for the deities. Humans generally seeks to please their belly and not their minds, whatever entices their senses can be used to seduce them and frankly they enjoy it more than that meant to prosper their souls, living for immediate gratification. Politics is all about making promises, a politician is a dealer of hope who does not have to deliver. The greatest ability of any politician is to be able to give subjects ear orgasms. It is akin to a player telling a woman lies to lay with her and she follows no matter how ridiculous stupid to be true the lies sound and despite a failed reputation.

A group of people who assume the position of leadership use religion and gods to control the rest. It is easier for a group of people to die or kill in the name of God(s) that to actually live their lives following productive principles. Sacrifice is preferred over obedience, obedience in the sense of doing what is right initially. Consequently when famine hits, natural disaster or siege, sacrifices are demanded to blot the transgression leading to the misfortune, which today technology/conservation solves. Doing what is right is better than sacrifice, in as much as no charms and sacrifice can take the place of hard work, reason and patience.

Music and all other forms of arts are also employed as political propaganda. For instance, Augustus Caesar implored Virgil to write the history of Rome thousand of years ago, the Ludi to seduce the masses. Artiste are used to push propaganda eliciting absolute devotion of subjects. Celebrities or idols like some call them, are very useful to politicians and their political ambitions.

Some ethnicity do dowries, while others offer bride price, everything being considered, sex was regulated  within the boundary of marriage, at least until the advent of feminism. Children are prepared for the role of marriage by parents and conversely today by animated stories (Disney). Marriage is less spiritual and more political in this age. Not so long ago marriage was a demanded by the parents, especially the mother who earnestly seeks to become grand mother and also on the part of the father to secure his estate. Presently, marriage enables the government to monitor a family’s income while also optimising the population, and in exchange they give tax break incentives. The Catholic church may have pioneered this making the pope to take a vow of celibacy, this was to avoid making papacy a family dynasty. They would also proliferate the monogamy agenda amongst the common people. Kings definitely would not follow that monogamy rule, the plan wass to maximise the resource of the man for the church and also keep population growth in check. One wife who is a devout woman will make sure her husband contributes to the church, having multiple wives will cause the man to have less to spare to the church in the case contribution was to be made.

Surely there has got to  life. It’s considered the noblest thing: to live within the limits of societal norms. Whatever has structure and has rules, humans are herds that must be lead. Indoctrination is the process to enact this, from the education system, to obtaining licenses, every single individual is accounted for. However, retaining a part of our individuality is important for the sake of innovation ; most entrepreneur fall into this categories, the individual that challenge the status quo, breaking rules and not laws.

The government does not exist to help you but rather create and enforce limits, the process inadvertently at times assuages unwholesome conditions but mostly it is a regressive process also. From the judicial, to the legislative and most importantly executive branch, they all serve the purpose of control. Slavery was abolished for the same reason beast of burden was outdated, machinery. Nothing changes no matter how innovative, unless the beast i.e government, can gain from it: political mafias. Essentially if it can’t be efficiently taxed, it is never going to be approved.

Sadly every ethnicity also has been boxed in, different ethnic groups serve a specific purpose at their different levels. The “beast” will be fed either way, thus in low income areas  the beast gets paid from mass incarceration, likewise in high income areas, it get paid from excessive taxes. The beast will employ whatever technique to turn whatever situation into a means to get paid. Full circle!

As a kid I’d thought the most beautiful entities visible to the eyes were stars, every night I looked into the skies to view the majesty of jewels of the cosmos, I was always in awe, even to this day my love for gazing into the heavens has not waned, I follow all news regarding meteor showers and conjunctions.

I must have been 5 years of age the first time I saw a girl that made me feel the same way I felt every time I looked at the night sky. Unfortunately I can’t really remember her name or what her face is like. At that moment I thought I’d found a star that I can not only see but also touch. Simultaneously, I felt for the first time the emotion: jealousy. A random kid would later show interest in what I have found first, my star. I was really possessive of this starlet and yet I had no idea of sex or better yet what marriage/relationship was.

Two years from the time her family would move out of state and I remember resenting her father for having gotten a better job offer a state away. Off course I was being childish, she was definitely not a thing to be owned, she was a person like myself; that experience will serve to prepare me for the process of anticipating and controlling the emotion the presence of an attractive woman elicits. Not so long after I learned at the Sunday school how women came to be. The first woman being Eve, the lady taken from Adam and also the one who flirted with the serpent while her husband was working. I am older now and I have also heard of the tale of Lilith the very first Femme fatale

While most will consider the accounts of Genesis to be a fairy tale, I consider it a metaphor and a damn accurate one on the nature of a woman/man alike. The story also sheds light on what a lady most desires and how to co habit with her judiciously. The first woman was formed from Adam’s rib, he gave up a bone (rib) that is necessary for breathing to get a partner fit for him, the . The ribs also are the major bones of the torso, protecting the heart, liver e.t.c. All things being considered the metaphor describes an entity designed to protect what’s man’s most priced possession next to his ego. A father will tell you his kids are his heart without their mother it most difficult for him to take care of them; this is how much important a woman is to a man.

Scientifically speaking it can be argued that the materials for creating the first human clone was derived from Adam’s ribs, in that a woman has the XX chromosomes and lacks the “Y”,  suggesting that the human male could be the more ideal specimen for cloning humans.

Women are natures survival experts, they are smarter than men in the matters of survivals, they have to be this way because their beauty/youth is for the sole purpose of securing a a mate. Men always have the need to cling to glory, loyalty and honor, women don’t have this problem as they don’t live to serve their ego but rather their self interest which is convenience. I’m sure women think of men as stupid for coining the phrase, “Death before Dishonor”. A woman does not mind dishonor if that will be the way she gets to kill her enemy or get what she needs.

For all the beauty nature bestows on a woman, she has been given one choice, that is to look for the best men to pair with. Bearing children is not an afterthought for majority of women, it is a matter of survival for them. Men produce in excess compared to women a performance enhancing drug called testosterone: the ambrosia of aggression and intelligence(creativity). A woman’s way of exploiting these magic potion she does not produce much of is to secure down a man before her youth is far spent. Here lies the manipulative power of women, nature’s gift to them, that which can easily open the Pandora’s box.

The first time I saw a naked woman was on the telly, I was eight and she was blonde woman, though it was ephemeral and not real, my world stood still. That there is a power only the God can bestow and it was granted to females, thankfully there is an incidental expiration date with it. The Holy Bible attest to the beauty of women, even celestial being were obsessed with them. From the hips to lips, her eyes and thighs, hairs to her nails everything that appears casuals on male’s body is made to be excessively desirable on a woman. Women are  given set of hooters and a pretty vagina for pecs and penis respectively. It is as if when it came to making women the architect of nature chose to lavish accents of unthinkable beauty on them.

As it is standard in nature, nothing goes to waste. There is a purpose to everything, even to the excessive beauty granted women, Even as her beauty is to be coveted in her youth, in her old age all she is got when beauty departs is her family. I have helped a number of elderly women. Despite her aggressively arrogant beauty, like stars she burns out to reveal a fragile and frail body requiring help in her last days. At that time all she may depend on her the kids she bore and hopefully the grandchildren. No more does she possess the charm to command men’s attention except for those of her household.

She initially  thrived on youth and beauty, but in her latter years she must thrive on empathy. It is therefore important she does not lose herself in the fleeting attention of youth to have never secured herself a support system. That support system comprises of her husband, children. Essentially the beauty a woman possesses is to be exchanged for a family that will help when she is old. Sadly some women miss this chance and seek to replace that support system with pet(s).

I’ve read that a female fetus is stronger than their male counterparts, and most miscarriages are usually male fetuses. That Y-chromosome is a burden, that reduces male survival rate and as adults testosterone almost always drives us to an early grave. Women use this to their advantage and inadvertently sparing most men of early death. We  are inspired to create machines to make it easier for women to take care of our children. There is one thing I however don’t like, is when a woman chooses to waste that beauty on an uncivilized man and then expect the protection of a gentleman. It is not natural, sooner or later even if the gentleman marries you, he will seek out other female pleasure as justification.

A message to men, just as you may admire the stars but you can’t reach out to hold them, likewise you may love and be with a woman while she wants to be with you, but you never own her. By the same token if she wants to you to take care of her, she must adhere to your rules or leave. There are many stars in the sky and no star ever gets in the way of the other.

choose one

 

SOS states that “Love is as strong as death”, the statement seems outlandish, but reality suggest otherwise. As it turns out the saying is not far-fetched at all. I have witnessed a lot of women accommodate dysfunction adult males, I have also asked women who complained about this about why they can’t just end it and each time they replied ” It is not as easy as you think”. At that point, I am reminded how growing up, ladies constantly were able to turn down geeks and nerds at a drop of a hat, but now they are telling me otherwise. Definitely there is more to it than they are ready to admit.

Observing mammalian pair bonding, and more so primates, it can be deduced that availability and options is what controls the mating process. Males generally compete for the females’ attention, however with humans it is a bit tricky. As both male and female attain sexual maturity, females tend to have more options available to them: in that males way older than they are , are willing to mate with them (sugar daddy) and are bale to turn down offers, the boys on the other-hand don’t have these options till they are 25 and up, as they are now able to provide.

In their late 20s to 30s women who are yet to secure a male protector/comforter will appear to be shit out of luck, and as such will now be willing to settle for any male that comes their way, not out of love but for the lack of option and availability. Five years prior to that time, she would have no second thoughts denying the men she will now be tolerating. This is because most women in their late 20s and 30s forfeit their sexual attractiveness, most don’t take care of themselves, so they lose their beauty quicker and thus not being able to compete with the much younger women fighting for the attention of the available alpha male: that man that every woman wants to be with and sometimes will be willing to be a inamorata.

Mating within the mammalian class attest to natural hierarchy. Primates especially being the order whose alpha male keeps a harem of females, makes it a tedious task for sexually maturing juvenile males to get sexual mate. The quest for a mate might drive the juvenile to mate with one of the females in the harem, consequently incurring punitive actions: banishment or death. This would be the equivalent of committing adultery which in ancient times was punishable by death. Humans are just as any animals governed by our instincts, only that we excel at privatizing our urges unlike beasts.

More women are living in their 40s and 50s alone without a male. It is a biological imperative for both sexes to get along. Humans have managed to undermine biology via our political laws, and inevitably as a society, this generation is paying the dues. A woman abhorring a man old enough to fend for himself but refusing to try. He is an opportunist preying on the system. I walked into a house to sell a product and the whole time the lady paying was doing her best to negotiate with me, all what her “Man” could contribute was yell while watching TV, he was hardly dressed too, suggesting he could be jobless, leaving the 40 year old lady to bear the financial burden of the home improvement expenses. In other homes I have frequented, the man’s presence is always felt and while he may not be actively involved in the sale’s process, his lady would consult him for advice so as not to feel intimidated by another man.

Sexual attraction should not be conflated with love, day and night might make a “Day” but they are both distinct parts of the day. It is natural for a woman to seek a man who finds her sexually attractive, this ties into sexual satisfaction and ultimately fertilization. However a lot of men who will find a lady attractive are not able to love her. Sexual attraction is a desire, love is accepting the responsibility that follows the desire. Unfortunately love is not a requirement for fertilization to occur, all it takes to make a child is pure lust, being responsible for the mother and child is proof of love.

Sex is a drug and the one whom we want it with , the dealer. Choosing the one that will lace it with love is like finding the dealer that has got a marvelous customer service, stay with that one, there is not a lot of those types out there, accountability is rare these days, imagine being able to knock up a woman and walk away, it is common now, nothing there. Essentially in any relationship, both partners are volunteers, none of them are victims, fact is, no party should feel like a parent in a relationship. Being girlfriend or boyfriend does not come with added duties of mom/dad, so don’t perform those roles. The key is to cut a relationship off , as soon as you feel bound to stay out of pity.

In any case that you are willing to put up with the abuse until you find a better replacement: a genital that cares; just think of a dope-fiend who would put up with abuse to get a fix.